Tag Archives: trigger

The Other Woman Pops Up on Facebook

Posted on March 12, 2014 by specklier

I’ve seen this same video make the rounds on Facebook where someone supposedly videos complete strangers sharing a first kiss. I say “supposedly” because by day 2 of seeing the video all over my Facebook news feed someone had discovered … Continue reading →

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An Update…If Anyone Was Wondering

Posted on March 27, 2013 by specklier

It’s been a while. I have one draft that needs finishing, but I wanted to just get something out. Maybe it’s all the posts about milestones (6 months post D-Day, 9 months, etc.). I’m am still finding bursts of time … Continue reading →

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Sex and an Unwelcome “Threesome” in Bed

Posted on March 2, 2013 by specklier

Throughout my relationship with H, we have had oscillating sex drives, often in opposition of each other. In the dating/living together years of our early 20’s, I had the higher drive. It was so frustrating because it was so opposite … Continue reading →

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Is My Situation Unique?

Posted on January 12, 2013 by specklier

First off, let me just say that if you aren’t familiar with my story, you might want to go back and catch up before reading this post. The first 3-5 posts (check the November archives) should cover the basic story … Continue reading →

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Categorizing Infidelity and Other Thoughts

Posted on January 9, 2013 by specklier

Infidelity, cheating, betrayal, etc. are part of one big, fat, grey line. It’s not black and white. It’s all about personal boundaries, definitions, and expectations. And in a marriage, you have to meld two different perspectives on the issue. I … Continue reading →

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Love Letter Request 3+ Months and the Crickets are Chirping

Posted on December 26, 2012 by specklier

First of all, in the name of full disclosure, I have the flu. It’s been over 10 years since I’ve had the flu. Also, it resulted in me missing pretty much all of Christmas. So it’s entirely possible that I … Continue reading →

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Processing a Near Miss vs a Direct Hit

Posted on November 28, 2012 by specklier

http://longtimemending.wordpress.com/2012/11/27/near-misses-2/ The above post is by a blogger I just discovered yesterday. His writing style makes me giggle because he is a bit all over the place. I like him because he just seems really genuine. I really didn’t connect … Continue reading →

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