I met my husband in 1999 (we were a one night stand, but that’s another story). By 2001 we were together for good; we got married in 2004. We are truly best friends, and we have a lot of fun together. In a lot of ways we are opposites: I am easy going, he can be judgmental, I’m a bit messy, he likes things in stacks, I forget little day-to-day things, he forgets whole conversations we’ve had, I’m very forgiving, he can hold grudges, I’m confrontational, he’s passive-aggressive, etc. But we are a lot alike: we’re both very social and outgoing, we’re funny, we’re creative, we’re open-minded, we’re loyal to our friends, etc. Most of our friends say we are in reversed gender roles (I’m the guy and he’s the girl), but I think we’re both more complicated than that.
I started this blog in the aftermath of finding out about my husband’s infidelity from the end of the summer (2012). I hope to process my emotions by writing, help those out there who are dealing with these same issues, and to get feedback on what I’m going through. I’m an external processor so a blog seemed like a good way to do that.
We are both 34 years old. My husband is the primary stay-at-home parent with our 3 1/2 year old son. He also works part time to help us make ends meet. I am the primary income-earner, which sounds fancy, but in reality I’m an overworked nonprofit employee. I don’t think being a stay-at-home dad ended up being quite what my husband thought it would be, but this is what he said he wanted way back when. It’s a thankless job, and I think it definitely contributed to him cheating.
If you want to start from the beginning of our infidelity story – go HERE.