About Us

I met my husband in 1999 (we were a one night stand, but that’s another story). By 2001 we were together for good; we got married in 2004. We are truly best friends, and we have a lot of fun together. In a lot of ways we are opposites: I am easy going, he can be judgmental, I’m a bit messy, he likes things in stacks, I forget little day-to-day things, he forgets whole conversations we’ve had, I’m very forgiving, he can hold grudges, I’m confrontational, he’s passive-aggressive, etc. But we are a lot alike: we’re both very social and outgoing, we’re funny, we’re creative, we’re open-minded, we’re loyal to our friends, etc. Most of our friends say we are in reversed gender roles (I’m the guy and he’s the girl), but I think we’re both more complicated than that.

I started this blog in the aftermath of finding out about my husband’s infidelity from the end of the summer (2012). I hope to process my emotions by writing, help those out there who are dealing with these same issues, and to get feedback on what I’m going through. I’m an external processor so a blog seemed like a good way to do that.

We are both 34 years old. My husband is the primary stay-at-home parent with our 3 1/2 year old son. He also works part time to help us make ends meet. I am the primary income-earner, which sounds fancy, but in reality I’m an overworked nonprofit employee. I don’t think being a stay-at-home dad ended up being quite what my husband thought it would be, but this is what he said he wanted way back when. It’s a thankless job, and I think it definitely contributed to him cheating.

If you want to start from the beginning of our infidelity story – go HERE.


4 Responses to About Us

  1. I’d like to award you with the beautiful blogger award.

    Beautiful Blogger Award Rules:

    The idea behind the Beautiful Blogger Award is to recognize some of the bloggers we follow for their hard work and inspiration.

    1. Copy the Beautiful Blogger Award logo and place it in your post.
    2. Thank the person who nominated you and link back to their blog.
    3. Tell 7 things about yourself.
    4. Nominate 7 other bloggers for their own Beautiful Blogger Award, and comment on their blogs to let them know.

    • specklier says:

      I delayed thanking you because I thought I could follow the directions, but I realize it’s not going to happen anytime soon. You know – infidelity recovery + holidays = full plate. But THANK YOU, it’s nice to be recognized.

  2. Hello,

    My name is MaryAnne and I apologize for the random nature of this comment, but I’m working on a new docu-series about couples dealing with relationship issues associated with infidelity. This new docu-series will follow couples on their journey as they work to heal their relationship with the help of a highly accredited therapist.

    I know this message is very vague, but I would love to discuss this opportunity with you further and see if this is something you’d be interested in, or perhaps you have a follower who is going through something similar and would like to find some peace.

    Please feel free to contact me at relationshiptherapyproject@gmail.com.

    Thank you and I hope to be in touch soon!
    All My Best,

  3. hisaffairmypain says:

    Beautiful … sounds like my husband and me with some differences … but the same connection…. and sadly – the same infidelity.

    Be strong. It gets better …. slowly – much more slowly than I would have thought…

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